14 Times Celebrities Shared Intimate Details About Sex And Relationships In Their Memoirs
1.In his memoir, Pageboy, Elliot Page wrote about his secret relationship with Kate Mara, which happened at the same time she was dating actor Max Minghella. He wrote, "The first person I fell for after my heart was broken was Kate Mara."
Elliot recalled seeing Kate at a party where she started flirting with him, but he "could never imagine Kate Mara would want [him]." Weeks later he attended a party at Kate and Max's home where she openly flirted with Elliot, and Max stood closeby "not giving it a second look." "I could not stop thinking about her. I was a goner," he wrote after adding that the couple had gone on several dates.
But while he was falling, he knew he was setting himself up for heartbreak because Kate was still with Max. "Everything with Kate was becoming more complicated, more loaded. I was feeling let down. Perhaps the excitement no longer outweighed the challenges," he added. "I was chasing something that could not be, letting lust overwhelm me."
2.Elliot also revealed that his Juno costar, Olivia Thirlby, was the "first woman I had a suitably consensual sexual relationship with."
"We started having sex all the time: her hotel room, in our trailers at work, once in a tiny, private room in a restaurant. What were we thinking? We thought we were subtle," he wrote. "Being intimate with Olivia helped my shame dissipate. I didn't see a glint of it in her eyes and I wanted that — done feeling wretched about who I am."
3.In her memoir, The Princess Diarist, Carrie Fisher revealed that she had an affair with Harrison Ford while filming their first Star Wars movie in the '70s. At the time, she was 19 and he was 33, married with two kids.
She wrote, "I began filming Star Wars hoping to have an affair. Hoping to strike people as sophisticated and louche, someone you’d think had gone to boarding school in Switzerland with Anjelica Huston and had learned to speak four languages."
She recalls the first time they slept together was after George Lucas’s 32nd birthday, in his studio car on their way back to London. She said, "A tug-of-war involving my wine-sodden virtue was underway, and I was unclear how it would turn out — but I realized who it was I wanted to win: my co-star, the one with the scar on his chin, the dialogue in his head and the gun in his belt — not now, just when in character, but still. After a mad scuffle, Mr. Ford threw my virtue and me into the back seat of his studio car and commanded the driver to 'Go! GO!' We went, followed by the crew."
She said, "Harrison made me feel nervous. I got tongue-tied in his company, and clumsy. I was with him when we worked together and tried to avoid him otherwise, so as not to annoy him. It was more comfortable to hang out with the cast and crew, who were more fun and less immune to my charms. But when I look back with squinting eyes, I figure Harrison was scoping out the set in those early days. Not to have an affair, necessarily, but not not to, either. We were on location, after all, and a quiet jaunt on the side was almost expected."
She added that the affair went on for three months before she ended things and they "never again acknowledged that anything of that nature had occurred."
4.In his book, Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing, Matthew Perry wrote about falling in love with Julia Roberts, but ultimately, breaking up with her because he couldn't handle the pressure.
"I did let her in, both figuratively and literally, and a relationship began," he wrote. "It was like she was placed on this planet to make the world smile, and now, in particular, me. I was grinning like some 15-year-old on his first date."
"Dating Julia Roberts had been too much for me. I had been constantly certain that she was going to break up with me. Why would she not? I was not enough; I could never be enough; I was broken, bent, unlovable," he wrote. "So instead of facing the inevitable agony of losing her, I broke up with the beautiful and brilliant Julia Roberts."
5.In his book, Spare, Prince Harry recalled the night he lost his virginity during an "inglorious episode" with "an older woman" when he was 17 years old.
"She liked horses, quite a lot, and treated me not unlike a young stallion," he wrote. "Quick ride, after which she'd smacked my rump and sent me off to graze. Among the many things about it that were wrong: It happened in a grassy field behind a busy pub."
6.In her book, Inside Out, Demi Moore opened up about "bringing a third person" into her relationship with Ashton Kutcher in hopes of saving their marriage. She wrote, “I wanted this marriage to work, and I was willing to do whatever it took, to jump through any hoop. So when [Ashton] expressed his fantasy of bringing a third person into our bed, I didn’t say no. I wanted to show him how great and fun I could be."
She added, "Having other people in our marriage presented a totally false sense of power, and an absolutely temporary sense of excitement. There were two different people we opened our relationship to, and they didn’t have bad intentions; they held it in the right space. To this day, I know I could reach out to either of them for friendship; one is now married and has a kid. They were good people, but it was still a mistake. Part of the point of monogamy is the energy of somebody making the sacrifice or the choice for you, and that you thereby hold this special place that no one else can have. As soon as another person is brought in, you are no longer being held in that sacred spot."
7.Demi also shared about the day she found out that Ashton had cheated on her, which ended their marriage. She wrote, “Ashton had slept with a 21-year-old, in our home, while I was out of town. I remember the night they met. We were at a bowling alley with Rumer [Willis], and when he went to switch out our shoes, she gave him her number on a napkin. Or that’s what he told me at the time. When we got home that night and he showed it to me, I said, ‘That is just gross. We were there with our kid, and she was there with her mother and her sister!’ I had a visceral response — it was revulsion. So the fact that he then pursued her felt like a real ‘fuck you.’”
She added, “He admitted it right away. Then I had to hang up and go walk the red carpet praying with every step that this information hadn’t gone wide yet, that nobody would thrust a microphone in my face and ask how I felt about my husband of six years fucking a 21-year-old he’d been hanging out with in a hot tub the weekend of our anniversary. I really thought I might throw up.”
“Because we had brought a third party into our relationship, Ashton said, that blurred the lines and, to some extent, justified what he’d done. I think he felt remorse, but he was also looking for a way to deflect blame, to maintain his own perception of himself as a decent family guy. Ashton did not compensate for his behavior by being extra solicitous and kind. In retrospect, I think all of this was his way of trying to get our of our marriage.”
8.In her memoir, Unqualified, Anna Faris recalled falling for Chris Pratt before she ended her marriage with her first husband Ben Indra.
She wrote, "Sure, I get to proclaim I didn't fuck Chris before I left Ben, but what is there to celebrate in that? It didn't make me a hero. After all, I wanted to, desperately. And I had feelings for him, obviously, even if I wasn't honest with myself about what those were. So while I didn't cheat I'm not completely innocent, either."
9.In his memoir, Will, Will Smith revealed that his first serious relationship was with a girl named Melanie, who cheated on him. As a way of coping with the betrayal, Will confessed to “homeopathic remedies of shopping and rampant sexual intercourse."
He explained that as soon as he met her she became "the center" of his life and he became preoccupied with “healing the pain of her trauma.” He also said, “The look in Melanie's eyes became the substitute for Gigi's [his grandmother’s] approval. I've always needed a woman to achieve for,”
Engaging in so much sex actually led Will to have a "psychosomatic reaction" to having an orgasm and he would "gag and sometimes even vomit."
He said, "I had sex with so many women, and it was so constitutionally disagreeable to the core of my being, that I developed a psychosomatic reaction to having an orgasm."
He also shared that when he started dating his current wife, Jada Pinkett Smith, he immediately tried to "satisfy" her by having sex multiple times a day, every day for four straight months.
He wrote, “I started to wonder if this was a competition. Either way, as far as I was concerned, there were only two possibilities: (1) I was going to satisfy this woman sexually, or (2) I was going to die trying."
10.In her memoir, Love, Pamela: A Memoir Of Prose, Poetry, and Truth, Pamela Anderson recalled a night when she “stumbled upon [Jack] Nicholson having a threesome in a bathroom” at the Playboy Mansion.
She added that she believed she helped him finish. “Mr. Nicholson had two beautiful women with him,” she wrote. “They were all giggling and kissing up against the wall, sliding all over each other. I walked by to use the mirror, bending over the sink to fix my lip gloss. Trying not to look, but I couldn’t help myself and caught his eye in the reflection. I guess that got him to the finish line, because he made a funny noise, smiled and said, ‘Thanks, dear.’”
11.In his book, Beyond the Wand: The Magic and Mayhem of Growing Up a Wizard, Tom Felton shared that while he and Emma Watson never dated, he does consider them to be "soulmates."
“That isn’t to say that there’s never been a spark between us. There most definitely has, only at different times,” he wrote. “Rumours started to abound that there was more to our relationship than we were letting on. I denied that I liked her in that way, but the truth was different.”
"My girlfriend at the time knew straight away that there was something unspoken between us. I remember using the familiar old line, ‘I love her like a sister.’ But there was more to it than that,” Tom continued. “I don’t think I was ever in love with Emma, but I loved and admired her as a person in a way that I could never explain to anybody else… We were kindred spirits. I know for certain I’ll always have Emma’s back and she’ll always have mine too.”
12.In her memoir, Open Book, Jessica Simpson revealed she had an "emotional affair" with Johnny Knoxville that started on the set of Dukes Of Hazzard. At the time, Jessica was married to Nick Lachay and Johnny was married to Melanie Lynn Clapp.
She wrote, "Sigh, Johnny. The boy from Tennessee, as I coded him in my diary. First off, we were both married, so this wasn't going to get physical. But to me, an emotional affair was worse than a physical one."
She explained that Johnny was one of the people she could be her "deepest authentic self" with and that he laughed with her, instead of at her. She even admitted to writing him love letters while her husband Nick was passed out in bed next to her.
She said, "We wrote these flowery love letters back and forth, often at night with Nick passed out in the bed next to me. We talked about music, and I would listen to the Johnny Cash songs he suggested just to feel like we were still together."
13.In her memoir, Down the Rabbit Hole: Curious Adventures and Cautionary Tales of a Former Playboy Bunny, Holly Madison shared the details of her first night living in the Playboy Mansion. She learned that having sex with Hugh Hefner was a requirement to live there and he even offered her a quaalude, saying, "In the '70s they used to call these pills 'thigh openers.'" She refused the drug but still got drunk.
Tina Jordan, Hugh's No. 1 girlfriend at the time, brought Holly into his bedroom, which she explained was "like an episode of Hoarders." She recalled hardcore porn being played on two TV screens as Hugh masturbated to other girlfriends acting out lesbian scenes. Holly remembered being pushed towards Hugh as a girlfriend urged him to "be with the new girl." She wrote, "It was so brief that I can't even recall what it felt like beyond having a heavy body on top of mine."
14.Finally, in her memoir, Live Wire: Long-Winded Short Stories, Kelly Ripa revealed that she and her now-husband Mark Consuelos actually broke up just five days before they eloped in 1996.
She said that she "had never really been dumped," and added that she felt "part rage, part indignation, part 'I'll show you what you lost.'" But after being forced to see Mark backstage before an appearance on Live! with Regis and Kathie Lee, they went back to Mark's apartment where he said "We have tomorrow and Thursday off. Why don't we fly to Vegas and get married?"
