Chappell Roan Explained How Fame Has Completely Changed Her Dating Life
Steve Jennings
Chappell Roan is once again opening up about how her rapid rise to fame in the past year has completely changed her life, this time getting candid about a new-found type of pressure pertaining to her dating life.
In a new cover story with Rolling Stone, Roan admitted that her life has done such a 180 that she sometimes even struggles to recognize herself. “Nothing about my life is like me anymore. I feel like I just let myself down so much because I’m not how I used to be,” the star said, going on to explain how this affects the way she navigates the dating world.
Roan, who came out as lesbian this year mid-show in Ohio, admitted that she’s been dealing with commitment issues stemming from her grappling with fame. “I met this girl that I really like, but [I] can’t commit because I feel like no one understands me. I don’t want to date another artist because they’re f*cking nuts. I’m so avoidant because I’m just like, ‘She’ll never get me. She’ll never get it,’” the star explained.
Despite the reservations, Roan revealed she’s currently getting to know someone who is “completely outside the industry” and has been understanding of her special situation. “She’s so awesome and so secure in herself and [has told me] ‘No pressure, we can just be friends if you want,’ ” Roan told Rolling Stone. “I’m just running around like a chicken with my head cut off. I’m just like, ‘What? I can’t get married!’ It is that type of delusion right now.”
Earlier this summer, Roan made headlines after posting a series of TikToks calling out fans who do not respect her boundaries or privacy, which, of course, include who she’s dating.
“I don’t care that [abuse, harassment, and stalking] comes along with the job, the career field I’ve chosen. That does not make it OK. That doesn’t make it normal. That doesn’t mean that I want it. That doesn’t mean that I like it,” she said at the time.
She doubled down on the sentiment shortly after, writing: “When I’m on stage, when I’m performing, when I’m in drag, when I’m at a work event, when I’m doing press…I am at work. Any other circumstance, I am not in work mode. I am clocked out. I don’t agree with the notion that I owe a mutual exchange of energy, time, or attention to people I do not know, do not trust, or who creep me out just because they’re expressing admiration. Women do not owe you a reason why they don’t want to be touched or talked to. This has nothing to do with the gratitude and love I feel for my community, for the people who respect my boundaries, and for the love I feel from every person who lifts me up and has stuck with me to help the project get to where it is now.”
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Speaking to Rolling Stone, Roan actually confirmed she has a stalker, a person she originally met in Missouri and who has visited her family home and even her hotel room in New York, which finally prompted her to get a security team.
Roan also shared other instances where her boundaries were crossed, including a man who followed her to LAX as she returned home after she refused to sign an autograph at the Seattle airport, a fan who non-consensually kissed her when she was celebrating a friend’s birthday at a bar, and people leaking her father’s number online and calling him.
All those instances ultimately triggered Roan’s initial TikToks, which were met with mixed reactions from the general public. In the interview, Roan said she actually received support from various colleagues after her posts, including Charli XCX, Billie Eilish, Hayley Williams, Katy Perry, the boygenius trio, Orville Peck, Troye Sivan, Noah Kahan, and Elton John, among others.
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Roan also shared how she and Sabrina Carpenter actually bonded because of their shared experiences going mainstream seemingly overnight while learning to assert boundaries as their fanbases grow exponentially. “We’re both going through something so f*cking hard … she just feels like everything is flying, and she’s just barely hanging on,” Roan said of Carpenter, adding, “It was just good to know someone else feels that way.”
Roan ended her reflections on fame, saying: “I don’t want to be agoraphobic. That’s [how] most of my peers [feel]. Every f*cking artist is on this page. Everyone is uncomfortable with fans. Some people just have more patience. I f*cking don’t.”
Originally Appeared on Teen Vogue
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