'I didn't want to be alive anymore': Duchess Meghan opens up in Oprah interview, more major moments
Weeks of media hype reached a crescendo Sunday when CBS aired Oprah Winfrey's interview with Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan, who said she was so close to suicide during her time in the palace that she couldn't be left alone.
"I didn't want to be alive anymore," she said, tearing up. "I was ashamed to admit it to Harry, but I knew if I didn't say it, I would do it. I just didn’t want to be alive anymore. It was clear, it was real, it was frightening, and it was a constant thought."
Meghan couldn't get any help from "the institution" of the monarchy, because she wasn't an employee, she was told. She couldn't check into a hospital because that wouldn't look good. "You can't just call an Uber to the palace," she half-joked. She even consulted one of the late Princess Diana's close friends, because "who else would understand what's it's like on the inside" of the royal family?
She and Harry went to a performance at the Royal Albert Hall one night, but Meghan told Winfrey she went only because she was afraid of being left alone. She wept when the lights went down and smiled when the lights went up.
"I can’t be left alone; I'm afraid of what I might do," she said, starting to cry.
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"In those months when I was pregnant, and at the same time there was talk about no title, no security, and also conversations about how dark his skin might be when born," she said. Who is saying that? Winfrey demanded. Meghan wouldn't answer, because "that would be very damaging to them," and later, Harry also refused to discuss it. Winfrey said Monday on "CBS This Morning" that Harry said neither the queen nor Prince Philip were involved in those conversations.
But "there was some real obvious signs, before we even got married, that this was going to be really hard," Harry said.
In another revelation, Meghan told Winfrey she and Harry did not choose to forgo a title for baby Archie. She said she was told that the rules prevented it, at least until his grandfather ascended the throne.
But she shocked Winfrey when she said they were told that the baby could not get royal security without a title and said unnamed palace officials raised "concerns" about the color of the baby's skin.
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Other revelations in the two-hour interview, conducted last month near Santa Barbara, California, included word that Meghan, 39, and Harry, 36, were secretly married three days before their 2018 royal wedding, by the Archbishop of Canterbury in their backyard.
Duchess Kate 'made me cry,' Meghan says
That rumor that Meghan, a former actress, made her sister-in-law, Duchess Kate of Cambridge, cry in a dust-up before the wedding? Not true; it was the other way around, Meghan told Winfrey, who asked her about the story that whirled around the internet six months after the wedding.
Meghan didn't want to reveal too many details of the incident, because Kate "is a good person" and she wanted to protect her privacy.
"She made me cry. It hurt my feelings," she said, confirming that the subject was flower-girl dresses. "But it was a really hard week before the wedding. She was upset and apologized and brought flowers and wrote a note. I've forgiven her. What's hard to get over is that I was being blamed for something I didn't do but happened to me."
Everyone in the palace knew it wasn’t true, she said.
"Why not say that?" Winfrey asked. "Good question," she replied.
Harry and Meghan reveal baby's gender: It's a girl
The couple also revealed that their second baby, due this summer, will be a girl: a sister for Archie, who turns 2 in May.
"Having a boy and then a girl: What more could you ask for?" said Harry, who had joined Meghan for the interview.
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What would Diana say?
The couple also denied "blindsiding" Harry's grandmother, Queen Elizabeth II, with their plan to step back from senior working royal roles. "I have too much respect for her," Harry said.
He said they left because they were refused support after asking for help, and because of a constant "barrage" of media criticism. Harry said he was afraid of "history repeating itself," a reference to the experiences of his mother, the late Princess Diana.
When asked how Diana would view what's happened with her younger son and his wife, Harry replied: "I think she would feel very angry with how this has panned out and also very sad. All she'd ever want is for us to be happy."
What about his relationships with his family? He said he's still close to the queen and talks to her regularly. Is his father, Prince Charles, taking his calls?
Harry admitted to feeling "let down" by the Prince of Wales. "Because he’s been through something similar, he knows what pain feels like and Archie is his grandson," he said. "At the same time, I will always love him. I will continue to make it one of my priorities to try and heal that relationship."
As for brother Prince William, he repeated what he has said before. "I love him to bits, we've been through hell together, we had a shared experience, but we’re on different paths." Later, he conceded: "The relationship is spaced at the moment. And, you know, time heals all things, hopefully."
Harry acknowledged that he was cut off from his family's money in the first quarter of 2020 and that he was able to move to the U.S. only because of his inheritance from his mother. He said he wanted to make only enough money to pay for the security needed to protect his family, who moved to a luxury estate in Montecito, California, and signed major deals with Netflix and Spotify.
The interview wasn't without moments of lightness. When explaining how unprepared Meghan felt on joining the royal family, she said "there's no class" on how to be royal. She described having to learn on the fly how to curtsy to the queen, and having to look up things she didn't know.
"I had to Google stuff at night, like the words to the (British) national anthem," she said.
The queen has received some ‘really bad’ advice, Harry says
When Harry and Meghan arrived back in the U.K. last year after leaving for Canada, Queen Elizabeth had originally invited the two to come visit her and discuss their announcement about “stepping back.” But upon arrival in London, Harry received word that the queen was now busy and they should not come to see her. He called to say he had been thinking about coming anyway, but she told him something had come up in her schedule and she was suddenly busy all week.
“When you’re head of The Firm, there are people around you that give you advice,” he said in a clip shared Monday. “What has also made me really sad is some of that advice has been really bad.”
Palace pushes back ahead of interview
Four days before the interview aired, The Times of London, a more staid but still conservative paper, weighed in with a report that said Jason Knauf, the American-born former press secretary for Harry and Meghan, made an official complaint in October 2018 to his palace bosses, accusing Meghan of "bullying" her staff, driving "two personal assistants out of the household and...undermining the confidence of a third staff member."
Meghan responded with a statement that she is "saddened by this latest attack on her character, particularly as someone who has been the target of bullying herself." Meghan, a former actress who's American and biracial, has been targeted by racist social-media posts since she emerged as Harry's girlfriend in 2016.
Her lawyers angrily responded to The Times, accusing the Rupert Murdoch-owned broadsheet of a "calculated smear campaign" against the duchess.
Buckingham Palace then issued a statement of "concern," promising to launch an investigation of the allegations in The Times and stressing that royal employers do not tolerate bullying. The palace did not explain why it never investigated the 2018 allegations, or what power it has punish Meghan if they prove true.
Meanwhile, in the week leading up to the interview, CBS released multiple promos featuring clips from the sit-down, provoking more critical stories and more Twitter shouting. One clip showed Winfrey asking the duchess: "How do you feel about the palace hearing you speak your truth today?"
"I don't know how they could expect that after all of this time we would still just be silent if there is an active role that The Firm is playing in perpetuating falsehoods about us. And if that comes with risk of losing things – I mean, there's a lot that's been lost already," Meghan says pointedly.
This reference caused an uproar. Brits understand the "The Firm" to mean the royal family, so critics such as breakfast show co-host Piers Morgan accused Meghan of calling her in-laws liars.
But she may have meant senior officials in the palace bureaucracy – the "men in grey suits," as an exasperated Princess Diana once called them – whom Meghan believes have lied and leaked about her to unfriendly media for years.
The interview aired as Philip, Harry's 99-year-old grandfather, has been hospitalized in London since Feb. 16 and had a successful heart procedure this week, but he's expected to remain hospitalized for several days.
Last month, Harry gave a preview of sorts to the Winfrey interview during a taped appearance on his pal James Corden's "The Late Late Show" on CBS: Harry said he and Meghan stepped back from royal life because "toxic" British media coverage was damaging his mental health. He said they intend to continue their "public service" in the U.S.
“We all know what the British press can be like. And it was destroying my mental health," Harry told Corden. "I was like, 'This is toxic.’ So I did what any husband and father would do ... I need to get my family out of here.”
The transformation of the couple set off another royal crisis, similar to the one that ensued when the marriage of Harry's parents, Prince Charles and Princess Diana, disintegrated in the toxic "War of the Waleses" in the 1990s.
CBS' announcement last month that Winfrey, the Sussexes' friend and champion, would interview them for a prime-time special, launched a tsunami of mostly critical media coverage in the U.K., especially after Winfrey vowed that no subject would be off the table and promised "shocking" revelations.
Some tabloid websites, such as the Daily Mail, posted up to a dozen different stories per day, many of them depicting Meghan in a bad light. Stories about how she bombarded staff with emails at 5 a.m. were resurrected. She was said to be furious at staffers when told she couldn't keep the free designer duds heaped on her, as any actress could, because it's against royal rules, said another report.
Watch the interview here: https://www.cbs.com/shows/oprah-with-meghan-and-harry-a-cbs-primetime-special/
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Contributing: Hannah Yasharoff
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