This Bridesmaid Is Expected To Drop From A Size 12 To 8 For A Wedding, Or The Bride Says She Has To Quit The Bridal Party
Welcome back, y'all! Last time we chatted, we debated over whether this boyfriend was an a-hole for asking his unemployed girlfriend to split their rent 50/50, despite making $500,000. Now, Reddit has dropped me into another sticky situation, but this time, it centers around a bride who wants her bridesmaids to change their bodies for her wedding.
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Recently, Reddit user and former bridesmaid u/junebugg85 shared this series of messages from her friend, who is getting married in December. On top of expecting members of her bridal party to send her a $500 "donation" toward her honeymoon, the bride also requires each bridesmaid to wear a size 8 dress. "So if you're not a size 8, I recommend hitting the gym," she concludes before quickly adding "no offense."
After sharing the story, Reddit users raced forward with their thoughts. Most commonly? People can't fathom the idea of someone having a size restriction for their wedding.
"Telling people to hit the gym to fit into their specific dress is just… I can’t even come up with words."
"Not only is this blatant fat-hating but they just assume everyone else can fit a size 8 properly? Hell, even when someone's close to a particular size, different manufacturers' stuff will fit bodies differently, so there's going to need to be some basic fitting done!"
"Not to mention bridal wear typically fits a size smaller, so even if these ladies got down to a standard size 8, the dresses might still be too small."
"Can she just get a bunch of mannequins from the mall as bridesmaids instead? That's basically what she's demanding they act as."
–Anonymous
Besides the obvious issue that comes with requiring bridesmaids to fit a certain dress size, commenters also pointed out that it's incredibly tacky to demand a monetary donation:
"I would NEVER expect or demand anyone to 'donate' to my honeymoon. I’m hopeful, but definitely wouldn’t demand such a thing. I want my friends and family to still like me after the wedding lol. This girl is out of her mind and needs one hell of a reality check. I hope all those girls walk out and this bridezilla gets a hard look in the mirror!"
"I would tell them I can afford it, but I'm just not going to. You are not entitled to my money bro."
–Anonymous
"I wouldn't even bring my finances into it. They have no reason to ask any member of their wedding for that kind of money and should be told 'no' directly."
–Anonymous
"Fuck anybody who has the audacity to ask for that kind of money, and fuck anybody who pays them."
A few deep readers were concerned about the best friend who was booted from being maid of honor for a previously unnamed reason, and they wondered why.
U/junebugg85 later clarified in an update: "[Her best friend] is Native American and [has] beautiful dark skin. But [the bride] said she would stand out and the day is supposed to be about her. So [her best friend] agreed to just be a guest. This girl has been her little sidekick/assistant since high school and does whatever she is told and, even though this had to crush her, she still posts daily about how much she loves her and will be there no matter what."
Obviously, no one had anything nice to say about this bit of info. User u/Addamstheasshole summed up the more sensitive answers by saying, "I hope bestie can finally realize how unfairly she got treated and gets the fuck away from this bride. The bride sounds selfish and toxic as hell."
As for u/junebugg85? Well, she won't be attending. "I've officially dropped out of the bridal party," they said. "I'm a size 12 with no plans on dropping to a size 8 by December."
When asked how the bride-to-be responded when she left the bridal party, u/junebugg85 said: "She was 'hurt' but said she figured I wouldn't be able to drop the weight since I recently gave birth and [she's] still expecting me to donate to her honeymoon. That's a big fat NO from me. I will be sitting out this wedding and instead going to stuff my face at Burger King."
In the end, most shared the same thoughts as user u/data_dealer, who simply said: "Dropped out of the bridal party? Should be dropping this POS from your life."
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