Enjoying fireworks when kids have autism. Tips for a spectrum-friendly Fourth of July

The Fourth of July holiday means picnics, parades and, of course, fireworks.

But, the loud booms and cracks that accompany the bright, dazzling lights can be overwhelming for some on the autism spectrum. That's no small matter in New Jersey, a state with the third highest rate of autism among children in the U.S.

So how to make Independence Day festivities more enjoyable, or at least tolerable, for people on the spectrum?

"It's helpful to talk through what will happen on the day," said Joe Novak, director of clinical content at Autism New Jersey. He emphasizes that "planning, preparation, and practice can often be the difference between a successful outing and an unsuccessful one."

We checked with autism experts, who offered this advice:

Desensitization therapy can help

Families can use videos of fireworks, starting at a low volume and slowly increasing it to help someone get used to the noises they will be hearing. This approach is called desensitization. Advocacy and research group Autism Speaks supports the approach, which uses visual and auditory previews to ease anxiety.

"Sometimes a person can only handle a few minutes of fireworks. In cases like these, just staying for a portion of the show (or coming late) can be helpful," said Novak. "If neighboring towns have fireworks shows on different nights, families can consider going to multiple shows for longer and longer times to increase the person’s comfort gradually."

Make it comfortable

Using headphones, sunglasses or even a hat can reduce the sensory impact of fireworks, experts say.

"For noise difficulties, some common tools used are noise-canceling headphones, earplugs or earmuffs," said Novak.

Choose a good spot

"Fireworks can be heard from miles away," Novak said. "Depending on how significant a person’s challenges are with fireworks, a simple goal could be to be within a half mile of the fireworks at first, where the fireworks are visible but the sound is not as bothersome."

Bring distractions

Having favorite toys, games or snacks on hand can keep someone entertained and calm while waiting for a show to start. These items can also serve as a distraction during the pyrotechnics if they become too much to handle. Autism website Behavioral Health Works also supports this strategy, emphasizing the value of having familiar and comforting items available.

Have a backup plan

"Having an escape plan is crucial," said Novak. Families should be mindful of their surroundings and have a clear idea of how to exit quickly if needed. This is also recommended by Behavioral Health Works, which notes that knowing you can watch from inside a car or leave early can greatly reduce stress.

Focus on having fun

The main goal is to have a good time, Novak said. "Keeping with the theme of success, sometimes a person can only handle a few minutes of fireworks,” he said.

Managing expectations and focusing on the enjoyment of the experience, rather than its duration or intensity, is more likely to lead to a positive experience. Behavioral Health Works underscores this: When children see their family smiling and enjoying the event, they are more likely to feel relaxed and join in the fun.

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Fireworks may not be for everyone

When you combine the crowd with the loud and sudden sounds and sights, a Fourth of July celebration may not be for everyone.

"That’s OK," said Novak.

While there is value in trying to get someone to enjoy a new activity, in the end, it may simply not work for every person with autism. In instances where fireworks are unavoidable, the end goal may be to just “get through it,” Novak said.

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