Fresh Out of Sweet Nothings? Here Are 125 Words of Affirmation Your Partner Will Love to Hear
Find the perfect things to say to your loved one based on this love language.
We all have a need to feel appreciated and loved. But the ways in which we prefer to be shown love can be different. That difference is at the heart of love languages, a concept first mapped out by marriage counselor Gary Chapman in his best-selling book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts. As Chapman explains, discovering a partner’s love language is about finding the tool that keeps their love tank filled up, not running on empty.
So, what are the five love languages?
The five love languages include words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. For someone who speaks the love language of physical touch, a hug or a snuggle will bring more comfort than a bouquet of flowers. If your love language is acts of service, your loved one cooking dinner will brighten your night more than a thoughtful text. And if your partner’s love language is words of affirmation, they’ll adore a sweet message.
Related: How to Show Your Partner You’re Grateful for Them, Using Their Preferred Love Language
How to use words of affirmation
Words of affirmation don’t have to be fancy. A simple “Thanks for that” or “I appreciate you” goes a long way. You’re acknowledging the effort your significant other is putting into a situation or a moment, and they’ll brighten when they know you notice. It’s a funny thing: It may seem like you’re doing the heavy lifting, giving all those compliments, but you’ll reap the rewards when your loved one feels all the warm fuzzies for you because you’re being so supportive of them. Wins all around! And with this list at the ready, you’ll never run short of affirming things to say.
125 Words of Affirmation
Thank you for….
You look amazing!
I loved it when you…
It made me so happy when you…
That meal you made was delicious!
I’m so lucky to be with you.
I love that [shirt /hat/dress/etc.] on you!
I love how [smart /funny/kind/organized] you are.
You make my heart sing.
You make everything better.
I couldn’t do this without you.
I’m so glad you’re in my life.
You’re so fun/exciting/hilarious.
I love that you always…
I trust you.
I believe in you.
I need you.
I know I can always count on you.
You’re so fun to be with.
The way you … is inspiring!
You’re so special to me.
I was so impressed when you….
I see how hard you’ve been working on….
I feel so grateful that I get to be with you.
I love our life together.
Thank you for listening.
I missed you.
I love how you get me.
I’m so happy to see you.
You’re the best.
No one makes me [laugh as much as/feel as happy/feel as beautiful] as you do.
You’re such a good partner.
You help me feel like I can do anything.
When I’m with you, I’m a better person.
You’re the best [parent /friend/teacher/etc.].
You handled that like a pro.
I value your judgement.
I’m so proud of you.
Your support means the world to me.
I love how you see the world.
Thank you for being a wonderful listener.
You broaden my perspective.
I hope you know how much you mean to me.
Being with you makes me so [happy /inspired/joyful]!
I love your [smile/laugh/eyes/way of seeing things].
Thank you for sharing your opinions with me.
I love that I can be myself with you.
Thank you for being honest with me.
You make me feel….
You’re so thoughtful.
You’re so kind.
You’re so sexy.
My life is more meaningful with you in it.
You rocked that situation.
Will you help me with something? Your input/advice is always so good.
I love how well you understand me.
You’re the best [gift-giver /cookie-baker/dad/mom/etc.].
You’re my best friend.
You’re one of my favorite people to be around.
You take such good care of me.
You always know the right thing to say.
You help me so much.
Thank you for being in my life.
We work so well together.
You’re an inspiration!
You are my sunshine.
I’m sorry I hurt you.
I love that you did this for me.
Your being here makes everything better.
It must be so tough to deal with this. How can I help?
Great job on….
I wish I could … like you can.
You are amazing.
You inspire me.
Thank you for taking the time to do this with me.
You did that! Go you!
I learn so much from you.
I love your ideas.
You do so much for the people in your life.
I’m proud to be your partner.
I have total confidence in you.
I love how you make time for me.
I respect you.
I love being with you.
That was so thoughtful of you to do/say.
That was so kind of you to do/say.
You know how to make me laugh!
You know how to make me happy!
I feel safe with you.
You have the best sense of humor.
I love when we do something special together.
I’ll always be here for you.
You make everything more fun.
You’re such a good lover.
Thanks for seeing what I need/needed.
Thanks for helping me with….
We make a great team.
Hello, gorgeous.
Hey there, sexy.
Our kids are so lucky to have you as their mom/dad/mentor.
I trust your judgment.
Your opinion means so much to me.
You’re so considerate.
You really are the best.
You make so many things possible.
I love your company.
You’re a dream come true.
You’re one in a million.
Do you know how much I love you?
Things feel easier with you here.
You help me in so many ways.
I don’t know what I’d do without you.
I feel so lucky to have you in my life.
You’ve totally got this!
Your perspective is invaluable.
Wow! That was incredible!
Your [dinners /backrubs/ideas] are the best.
I love how your mind works.
Want to come with me?
I love how you see things.
Good thinking!
I appreciate you.
What a good idea!
Thank you for loving me.
Don't forget, you can always write down one sweet relationship quote on a card for an instant love note!
