Hilaria Baldwin shares 'abusive comments' she receives on Instagram: 'So barbaric'
Hilaria Baldwin is speaking out about online bullying.
In an Instagram video posted Wednesday, the pregnant mom of six shared hateful comments she received on social media.
"These comments used to make me want to kill myself because you feel misunderstood," she said in the video. "They say the most ridiculous, outlandish, untrue things in the world. And you start to feel like you have to justify yourself, in this world of information, where people can twist things and turn things and splice them. You feel that you constantly need to give an explanation. And one of the things that I've learned after being so torn apart so many times is that you don't have to, and that you are fine just as you are, and you don't owe anything to anybody. Just be kind, be good."
Baldwin, who is married to actor Alec Baldwin, said the comments started after the press learned that she was dating the 30 Rock star in 2011.
"For them, I was some young bimbo who was marrying up in the world, marrying somebody who was older, and the only thing could be that I was a whore who is focused on money and power and fame and all that kind of garbage," she said. "And the issue is that now it has become mainstream [to be like this] to women. And we can all secretly look at information on our phones, and people who call themselves reporters and work for reputable places are using their power for evil and tearing apart other people, especially women, and doing it in ways that is so barbaric and so something of the past and so anti moving forward for equality."
Baldwin then posted cruel messages from people who replied to her Instagram Stories. Some of these comments accuse the yoga instructor of having an eating disorder, as well as claiming she faked her pregnancy. (The couple used a surrogate to welcome their sixth child, and Baldwin is currently pregnant with their seventh.) Others come for Baldwin's kids, demanding that they get haircuts and insisting she is "self-absorbed" for posting a photo of herself alongside her little ones.
In a message she wrote alongside the video, Baldwin added, "I share with you here some abusive comments I get because I've learned that so many of you are suffering in silence from this kind of harassment. These people often get radicalized in online hate forums. May my example make you know that you are not alone and you are always allowed a seat at the table."
She added that women — who she says are the main group of people attacking her online — are often used to living with abuse all around them, which makes it easier for them to be cruel to others.
"I’ve been doing so much research and learning on why some women are inhumane to each other. I want to understand where it stems from, so I can try to be a part of the solution," she wrote.
“Because we have been conditioned for this, many feel that they are justified in doing it to each other," Baldwin said. "It's a longer conversation…but one I want to keep on having because as we live right now, people are dealing with depression and suicide because of this abuse that often goes on in quiet enough ways that only the abused knows. In our minds and lips we try to make sense of the abuse. Do we deserve it? How can we rationalize it? The answer is: you can’t. It doesn’t and will never make sense. This is behavior of mean girls who grow up and continue their sororicide."
Baldwin received praise for speaking out in her comments section. One follower wrote, "So proud of this kind of vulnerability. I see you mama. The profound internal hurt of these women you describe is something I’ll never comprehend. Keep being you."
Another added, "Those replies to your sweet stories are disgusting! Thank you for sharing. People that do that are sick. Seriously sick minded and intent on causing emotional and mental harm in any way they can. Terrible people! You are a wonderful mother, wife and person. Taking the time to address the truth and seriousness of how this can really affect people is brave and what makes you shine even in the middle of such sadness. Helping others is truly your natural calling."
Baldwin shared her thoughts on online bullying before in an April video she posted to her Instagram Story.
"When you see somebody getting attacked by the online mob or any kind of cancel culture, instead of scrolling past, or worse, getting involved, reach out to them and just tell them that you support them as a human," she said at the time, sharing that people die by suicide over these comments. "You don't have to agree with them 100%. You don't have to even understand what they're attacking them for."
If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call 911, or call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text HOME to the Crisis Text Line at 741741.
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