Who Is Kacey Musgraves' Boyfriend?

Learn all about the man who gives her "Butterflies."

Kacey Musgraves’ dating history has seen some interesting suitors. From bandmates to singers to a copywriter and poet, the country star definitely has a type. This woman wants a beau with the heart of an artist!

Musgraves went through a public marriage and divorce in the past few years. However, it now seems like she’s found love again with her boyfriend Cole Schafer. We need to know, who is her new man and who are the ones who came before him?

Here is everything you need to know about Kacey Musgraves’ dating history and her new relationship!

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Who is Kacey Musgraves' husband?

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Ruston Kelly and Kacey Musgraves at the Grammys on Feb. 10, 2019

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Kacey Musgraves does not currently have a husband. She was last married to singer-songwriter Ruston Kelly from 2017 until 2020. Kelly released his debut EP Halloween in 2017 and his debut studio album Dying Star in 2018. He is known for country music and has written songs for the likes of Tim McGraw, Josh Abbott Band and more.

Kelly and Musgraves met after performing at Nashville’s Bluebird Café in March 2016. They got married in October 2017 but sadly filed for divorce in July 2020.

Musgraves is now dating self-proclaimed copywriter “by day” and poet “by night” Cole Schafer and has been since 2021.

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Why did Kacey Musgraves and her husband split up?

When Kacey Musgraves and her husband of less than three years, Ruston Kelly, filed for divorce, she cited irreconcilable differences in the paperwork.

When asked about the divorce, Musgraves has said, “I mean, seasons change. Our season changed.”

Reportedly, it was the pandemic that ended up splitting up the couple as the forced time at home made them realize they were simply not a good fit.

Their joint statement about their break up read in part, “We’ve made this painful decision together. With heavy, but hopeful, hearts we wanted to put our own thoughts into the air about what’s happening. These kinds of announcements are always met with scrutiny and speculation and we want to stop that before it even starts… [We] were put into each other’s lives for a divine reason and have both changed each other infinitely for the better … It simply just didn’t work.”

Did Kacey Musgraves leave her husband?

Kacey Musgraves did part ways with her ex-husband Ruston Kelly. She was the one who filed for divorce, so that does imply that she was the one who may have done the leaving at the end. However, the two have been pretty adamant that the relationship just didn’t work and don’t seem to have any animosity toward each other.

They even said in their joint statement about the separation, “[We hold] no blame, anger or contempt for each other … [We have] a soul connection that can never be erased."

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Is Kacey Musgraves in a relationship?

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Cole Schafer and Kacey Musgraves at the Met Gala on May 2, 2022

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Kacey Musgraves is currently in a relationship. She is currently dating copywriter and poet Cole Schafer. The pair were first spotted together in June 2021, which was about a year after Musgraves announced her divorce from ex-husband Ruston Kelly.

Musgraves has said of the relationship, “I don't really want to keep things private, because I'm proud of the love that I have. I'm very happy. It's natural to want to share that. And I don't want to come across like a robot—I think people like me because I share who I am."

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Who is Kacey Musgraves’ partner?

Kacey Musgraves’ current romantic partner is Cole Schafer. He works in advertising as a copywriter “by day” and moonlights under the alias January Black as a poet “by night” according to his website.

Schafer is actually a published poet with three books to his name: One Minute, Please?, After Her and Guillotine.

Of her partner, Musgraves has gushed, “I feel really lucky to be with someone who is so secure and is a champion of me reaching for every star possible. It's a really beautiful thing for a man to be able to support a woman in that way and not take it personally."

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Are Kacey and Cole still together?

By all accounts, it appears Kacey Musgraves is still with her boyfriend writer Cole Schafer. As recently as Jan. 5, 2023, Musgraves made an Instagram post celebrating her beau’s birthday with the caption, “brightest flame in my world.”

The two were first spotted together in June 2021 and confirmed their relationship a few days later.

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Where did Kacey Musgraves meet Cole?

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Kacey Musgraves and Cole Schafer in New York in June 2021

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Kacey Musgraves met her boyfriend Cole Schafer when the pair locked eyes across a crowded restaurant. They both live in Nashville, making it easier for their paths to cross. The future couple exchanged numbers and ended up going on a public outing together in June—in New York!

According to Musgraves, “He did not know who I was, which I loved.”

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