Have a Kid Who Constantly Asks "Why?" Here's Some Genius Parental Advice
Kids are curious, this we know. And in their pursuit of knowledge, their vast desire to learn everything, you may hear them utter one word more than any other: "Why?"
But as any parent knows, when that question is asked incessantly, without real interest in the answer, things can turn ugly. Too often it serves as an attention-seeking ploy or, worse, a way for your hyperactive honey to procrastinate. It's textbook stuff, yet somehow this triggering word can poke and prod at us until our patience meter has run out and an explosion is inevitable.
This scenario is so common among parents it has sparked its own dedicated post on Reddit. Written by a user named Originalstickers, it decried the problem and detailed some highly effective ways to take control of the conversation, nipping that habit in the bud. Here's what made it so brilliant.
It Made A Frustrating Situation Laughable.
"You want to just tell them to shut their adorable little muffin hole and move on with the day instead of breaking down every single word of your statements," the original poster (OP) wrote. "You want to yell and scream and have your own tantrum because dagnabit, its 7:20 am and you weren't expecting to have to break down the rules of society and explain services and exchanges to someone that won't even understand half of what you're saying."
It Proposed a Way to Break the Habit.
"I have (very recently) set down a rule with my 3 yo that we will only answer complete questions," the OP said. "I feel less like a hostage to my child's questions, and more like I am actually answering real inquiries. I've noticed sometimes the questions stop because THEY'RE tired of asking. My brain is much less likely to fall into being angry or tired. Finally, due to work from my amazing spouse who was stuck with them all day during a sick day, there is a change in the way my child is now speaking."
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It Gave This Example of It Working on a Child:
"'Why?' they ask.
'Why what?' you reply.
'Why do I go to school?' they ask.
'School is important for your growth,' you answer.
Child thinks long and hard about how to turn this into a question."
It Crowdsourced Additional Ideas.
"[The] top idea has been 'Why do you think?' phrased back to the child," the OP said, listing suggestions made by commenters. "It encourages creativity and problem solving on the part of the child, [and] allows them an opportunity to show off what they already know."
It Suggested a Bonus Strategy.
When your child is using "Why" to stall for time (and avoid a task they don't like), tell them "they must say 'yes mommy / yes daddy / okay' and start to do the requested task," the OP wrote. "And then if still curious as to the reasoning, [they] can ask questions.
'Put on your shoes, please,' you say.
'Why?' they ask.
'You say "yes mommy / yes daddy / okie dokie" when I ask you to help me and then you can ask your question,' you say.
Child begins putting on their shoes.
'Why?' they ask.
'Why what?' you answer.
'Why do I have to put on my shoes?' they ask.
A. Answer them.
B. Flip it back on them and ask why they think they should wear shoes."
Apparently, It Works.
The commenters who read the post swore by its tricks, so try them yourself and let us know. Hopefully, they'll save you a lot of frustration throughout the day. Thanks to Originalstickers for the lesson in outsmarting our kids!
