Bad Hygiene, Gaslighting, And 18 Other Relationship Deal Breakers That People Definitely Agree About

When it comes to relationship deal breakers, you gotta know where your limits are — and it's good to warn other people so they don't get stuck in similar situations, too.

U/knightchazza recently asked the people of Reddit, "What is a deal breaker for you in a relationship?" Feel free to take some notes:

1."Demanding to be social every single day with no downtime for ourselves."

—u/jackfaire

2."A lack of personal hygiene."

—u/SundayMorningTrisha

3."If they can’t goof off, it’s a problem."

—u/RaineDove

4."Unable to handle basic adult responsibilities, like cleaning up after themselves or paying bills."

—u/DeathSpiral321

5."Being disrespectful in public — it's such a turn-off."

—u/cory140

6."Being kept a secret by not meeting friends and family, and not being introduced to anyone."

—u/ch3zza80

7."Trying to pressure me to convert to their religion."

—u/Yuck_Few

8."Making the restaurant staff sing to me on my birthday. Fuck that shit."

—u/fhrblig

9."Constantly playing 'Devil’s Advocate' for the sake of getting a reaction or wearing you down, instead of having meaningful discourse on subjects that matter to both of you. One is communication and sharing ideas, the other is attention-seeking behavior."

—u/giga_booty

10."Unable to communicate emotions — or, worse, not understanding WHY they are feeling the way they do and blaming their loved ones, which results in a lack of empathy for those who can communicate needs. It can bring on the total breakdown of a relationship."

—u/New_Laugh_4080

11."Lying. If a relationship lacks honesty, it is doomed to fail."

—u/Clean-Brilliant-6960

12."Being toxic or manipulative."

—u/SaMushrom

13."Being treated disrespectfully. Your partner should always treat you as you would yourself, or better."

—u/Yashugan00

14."When they don’t put in the same effort as you. If I’m trying to show you that I value you, and I'm making you feel valued and communicating consistently, I expect the same in return. You don't have to give me the world, I just want reciprocated interest. Otherwise, you very quickly become unattractive."

—u/SouthsideRapGod

15."Not wanting me to go out with my friends and discouraging me from developing my own social life. I get jealousy, and I am more than willing to check in once in a while if I'm out — but if my partner doesn't trust me when I'm out with other people, then it's a big no."

—u/New_to_Siberia

16."Starting fights with other men while drunk. It's not cute or manly. They'll soon turn on you at home, or they'll start punching holes in walls. Absolutely not."

—u/PathCareful2600

17."Not respecting their parents, or being too much of a mama's boy. Both are equally bad."

—u/oleandrexx

18."Gaslighting others into believing they're always wrong."

—u/cocomelonsdog

19."Being mean or judgmental about people."

—u/SapphicSpider

20."Shouting. There are very few reasons to raise your voice at the person you love — car crashes and imminent death being the only ones I can think of."

—u/wesleyD777

Got your own? See you in the comments!

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