Time To Reconnect! 25 Relationship Check-In Questions for You and Your Partner
Because loving relationships deserve to stay that way.
Being in a happy, loving relationship is truly something special. Between date nights and endless cuddles, what more could you ask for? But the key to maintaining any healthy relationship is communication.
No matter how perfect your relationship may seem, it never hurts to check in with your partner. Why? Well, small issues have a way of building up over time if they're not addressed. You want to catch them early so you both can express how you feel and make changes to prevent those small things from getting in the way of your love.
Obviously, relationship check-ins are also great (and much-needed) if you've been noticing changes in your partner's behavior. Maybe they seem more distant lately or they started to do something you don't really like. Having a dedicated, open space to talk about your feelings can help resolve questions and problems.
Here are 25 relationship check-in questions to discuss with your significant other so you can continue your happy and healthy relationship for years to come!
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How To Have a Relationship Check-In
Before you jump into the questions, here are some tips on how to effectively have a relationship check-in. First, it's important that both you and your partner feel comfortable. Choose a comfy space in your home or outside (not the bedroom, as that can feel too intimate), like the living room or patio.
Set a few ground rules about your communication styles during the check-in. For example, you want communication to be honest but respectful. Preface that anything said during this time is so that you can continually improve your relationship, not to bring the other person down.
After you both feel comfortable, you can open up the conversation with questions. However, the key to having an effective conversation is to treat it like a conversation, not a Q&A or interrogation. If your partner says something you don't quite understand, ask for more details or examples. If there's an issue you both addressed, chat about tangible ways you can resolve it. Identifying problems without discussing potential solutions won't help you move forward.
Ready to dive into some questions? Read on for the ultimate list of relationship check-in questions.
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Relationship Check-In Questions
1. Do you feel like we're spending enough time together?
2. Is there anything you wish we did more of?
3. What are the things I did in the past month/week that you appreciated or made you feel loved?
4. Is there anything that's been bothering you that we haven't talked about yet?
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5. What do you want us to work on together?
6. How do you think our communication has been going lately?
7. What are your personal goals this month and how can I help support them?
8. Are there any new experiences you'd like to have together soon?
9. Is there anything you need that I haven't been fulfilling lately?
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10. What can I do to make your days better or easier?
11. What am I doing now that you really like or appreciate?
12. What do you see as my biggest growth areas to improve on?
13. Is there anything that I used to do at the beginning of our relationship but don't do as often now that you'd like me to start again?
14. Is there anything that's been stressful for you lately that I should be aware of?
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15. Have you been generally happy lately?
16. Is there anything that you'd like to do differently or try in the bedroom?
17. What are you looking forward to this week/month?
18. Is there anything you'd like to discuss about our goals for our future? Anything to update, change or discuss?
19. What are some ways we can have more fun in our relationship?
20. Do you feel close to me lately?
21. Do you feel like anything has been missing from our relationship?
22. How do you think we've been doing with resolving conflicts?
23. How are you feeling about your self-care habits?
24. Are there any important upcoming dates/times I should be aware of?
25. Is there anything else you'd like to talk about?
There you have it! Now you're ready to have a productive conversation with your partner about your relationship.
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